RIP Desmond Wray, Palisades resident 

I’m sad to say we lost one of our original residents this past week,  Desmond Wray.  Desmond was always nice and kind to this HOA board, attending when he could and always offering help. A model citizen. He attended our first holiday party this past year, and was happy and in good spirits(as he always was) He was the epitome of the Palisades credo “Building our community by helping each other”

I asked one of his close neighbors, Lori Mustapick Lopez to write a eulogy so if you didn’t know him, you would get an opportunity to hear what a great man he is. He will definitely be missed in our small community. 


I am honored that James Wieland has asked me to write this eulogy for our great friend and neighbor Desmond Wray. 

Last Thursday, September 3, 2015 my great friend and our neighbor Desmond Wray went home to be with the Lord. Desmond fought a great and mighty fight this last year since being diagnosed with stage four colon cancer. 

 For those of you who knew Desmond, you knew him as a great man of faith, a helping neighbor and friend, a musical man, a positive inspiration, someone who never had a bad word to say about anyone or anything, and a man who was never too busy to spend some time with you just because you needed him to. During his chemo treatments this last year, he NEVER complained, NEVER got sick and ALWAYS kept a positive attitude. He continued to walk the neighborhood with his dog Ziggy, helped out with anything he could, and he continued to attend HOA meetings to better the neighborhood. 

 For those of you who didn’t have the pleasure of meeting or knowing Desmond, he and his wife Joy lived here since the inception of Palisades. They designed and built the house and he constantly did additional work to the home to improve it’s value and to customize it exactly the way they wanted It, as this was to be their retirement home.

 Desmond is survived by his wife Joy, His daughter Rene and sons Gavin and Jamel along with a brother Byron, sister and many in-laws. He also had four grandchildren and many, many other relatives and friends. (Forgive me if I forgot anyone in the immediate family)

 Those of you who know me, know that I considered Desmond my family. He was like a second father to me. The Wray’s have been so gracious to me and all the neighbors during this last week. They have invited us into their home and personally, allowed me to cook for them and to take part in all family events so that I could be close to Desmond during his last days. The family is presently in Long Island, New York where they are having a memorial service for Desmond in their hometown and will be returning in about a week to have another service here for all his Floridian friends and relatives … and he had MANY! (I’ve never seen so many people come and go as I did this past week) 

 The family will hold a service at Grace Fellowship at 8350 Okeechobee Blvd on Saturday, September 19, 2015, at 11am… which would have been Desmond’s 70th birthday, for those who would like to attend. In the meantime, if it’s in your heart, please pray for the family during this difficult time. And if you are led, please visit them, bring a casserole, some baked goods, a card, or just a kind word as it will be a very difficult and busy time for the family. Thank you in advance to those of you who help out!

 Whenever I think of Desmond and all that his friendship has meant to me … my day becomes brighter, a smile comes to my face, and I am forever grateful to have known such a wonderful man. RIP my friend.

With Deepest Sympathy,

 Lori Mustapick Lopez

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